Why you should get your old college buddy to talk to your impossible teenager.
I just got an old college mate to speak with my recalcitrant 16-year old daughter. My friend’s a super busy dentist, way busier than me, and I am so lucky to have caught her during the lockdown.
At some point I thought, I keep looping the same advice loops… better to let a reasonable voice, one which could make me make my bed, talk to my daughter! Frankly the Amphan supercyclone was in my heart… for my daughter is my heart and her heart is in my heart. Anything done by me alone is her doing too I fear, just like in the e e Cummings poem. I could not bear to stand by and let her talk to her grammar-less junior friends for hours a day on the phone… I really think my friend has knocked some sense into her.
Why ask your smarter friends to talk to your kid after a debacle, after a suicide attempt, after your relationship has blown up in your face and you’re no longer on talking terms with your kids. Do it now! Just coz we don’t want to admit we suck at parenting just like we sucked at Prosthodontics. Back in college, we took help from our mates. Why now now? Some projects are better done with team work.
Actually our college friends know our flaws and are MUCH better suited to talk to our kids in a pinch. She spoke an hour, I think she gave exactly the same message we keep giving as parents, but this one my kid will listen to. I hope! Fingers crossed.
Bonus: the kid realises that there’s someone who could stand you, and still loves you, ao maybe you’re not ALL bad.