This is lovely! Thank you, I found that part about “they’re not listening anyway” amazing, I think that single sentence is an amazing lever to change from fruitless digging in the dirt to a genuine lift.
‘I can’t believe it’ is objectionable. Yes, wow, now that you put it like that, of course!
I am not white, I don’t even live anywhere close to the US but in India where we have a rich culture of castes, so this resonated with me as a “white” as well as a “black”. Thanks and keep writing. I really loved your piece.